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TraumaCondo: A Behind-the-Scenes Look

Monday, September 29, 2008

You've cried. You've laughed. You've wondered. You've wanted more. We know that Dad's stay at the TraumaCondo has you thinking about all kinds of things. [... You can admit it ... some of you are dazed about what happens after your own race is over ... others of you are challenged to change your own daily routine to make a difference ... yet some of you are simply lost ... and that's okay, too ...]

This evening, we take a behind-the-scenes look at the TraumaCondo, a place where shattered lives are slowly put back together by "blessed hands." Come take a look ... and try to keep up.

Floor One = SafeHaven: You have seen Our Little Corner and the Rhea Chapel, both of which are located on the SafeHaven. On weekdays, it sounds like an airport hub or hotel lobby ... primarily due to the scheduled surgeries. On weekends, it sounds a little more eerie. The cries, sighs and good-byes make it very difficult to process your own reason for visiting this place. The SafeHaven Ladies greet every visitor with a smile ... no matter what your walk in life. One of the regulars, Ms. Scissors, had even heard about Dad before I shared our story. Whoa?!?!

Floor Two = CribColony: This place offers you a place to seek some refuge for your blistering eyes. I told you earlier that it's too hard to sleep on those red, stinky, three-seat couches on the SafeHaven. [The best explanation I have for the stench is that "those" couches have one purpose ... to sit on ... while the good-smelling couches in our homes do not get as much (or as diverse) "bottom" exposure. Make sense?] Well, CribColony offers nice, pleather, "can't seem to recline all the way back" chairs ( ... SleepKnots ... ) for your cribbing pleasure.


You can also find the doorway to the GoldenArchesCafe on this level. Tell me, does that make sense? The GoldenArchesCafe located in a TraumaCondo? It's a lot like having a state-of-art video gameroom built in the school library. Go figure.


Floor Ten = HurtUnits: Yep, this is where Dad (and us) have been hanging out since the first day of the ViolentSilence. First, the two waiting rooms. The ColdRoom is near the main entrance right off the elevators. Maximum temperature = 58 degrees. That's good for me, bad for Mom. There are only six SleepKnot chairs in this room. There are HUGE (sarcasm) lockers to make your extended stay feel welcome.

The StinkRoom is on the other side of the floor. It is closed off, no ventilation, minimum temperature = 100 degrees. There about 20 SleepKnot chairs in this room. Did I say that it smelled? [That's a good celebrity deathmatch ... the StinkRoom versus the First Floor Stinky Chairs ... ] "Family consult" -- where we first met Dr. Trauma -- is a place where the facts are delivered to the LeftOvers, the ones left behind to hurt and wonder why.


I have to tell you, there are some really, really broken people on this floor ... both patients and visitors. Of the patients we have seen, there are a lot of critical injuries caused by Donorcycles, those two-wheeled vehicles that some call motorcycles. Of the the visitors, I've met LortabLady (who needs medical assistance to get through the tragic shooting of her boyfriend), LightSheepGirl (who has been ostracized from her family because she found God), and LonelyGuy (who spends every minute possible by his dad's side ... a dad with whom he recently reconciled).


The signs throughout the HurtUnit tell you what you can and cannot do ... they tell you where to go ... and when to go ...


Next time, we look at more behind-the-scenes, including a close look at the parking lot, the elevators, and LifeMachines.

Attn: EarlyBird Warriors

The Men's Ministry has met every Tuesday morning at 6:00am at the Church for weekly small group study (... in the Word ... about the Word ...) Last week, we changed location to meet at Our Little Corner.


Here's an open invitation to all those EarlyBird Warriors ... whether you are part of our Church, part of our denomination, part of our Faith, or part of our species ... you are invited to come by to Pray for Ray tomorrow, September 30, 2008, at 6:00am at the First Floor of the TraumaCondo. See you there.

100% Update: Late Trauma Rounds

Since Dad signed a new lease the TraumaCondo, a nice little one-window room called Unit #14, we were last on the list of TraumaRounds. [For a good description of this process, click here.] Usually, the rounds are done by 9:00am. This time, we were well into the "Breakfast is over!" call at the GoldenArchesCafe before rounds were done. Here is what we know:

  • Nurse Ponytail is back and ready for a third day of action. The throat cultures came back ... positive for LungJunk (pneumonia) ... the good news is that the bacterial infection can be treated with an antibiotic ... the good news is that Dad can stop taking the other antibiotics ... the good news is that we can pray this bacteria out of Dad ... Remember? We all have GodThruMan strength to pray for healing and wholeness.
  • Dr. Trauma 4.0 who will be here all week, said he was pleased with Dad's status. [I don't think any of these WhiteCoats (...or "doctors" for the literary-challenged readers out there...) believed that Dad would still be here.] Dad is the ultimate GodThruMan example this week!
  • Dr. Trauma 4.0 reported that the ICP port had been taken out; that Dad relies on the LungRobot less and less (which means his lungs are getting stronger); and that Dad should continue to rest and heal.
  • At one point, Dad wanted to start a hand-wrestling-war with me, but Nurse RubySlippers came in at the right time (...just as I was about pin Dad...) She upped his meds temporarily. Exit "flailing arms" ... Enter "peaceful ZZZZZ's"

Other than that, TraumaRounds were unremarkable. We are still waiting on an XRAY of the face, as well as the results from the CT Scan performed last night.

100% Update: Remote Feed 2.0

Good morning...or Good afternoon, World! Yesterday I posted from my Remote Feed 1.0, which was my home. Today, my fingers are able dance a little more quickly on the keyboard at Remote Feed 2.0, my work, because it is a large keyboard with large screen. [ ... nice ... nice ... nice ... ] Here's the report from last night:

Sunday, 9:00pm: I snuck away from my humble home to see Dad. I like going at night because this is our "quiet time." Upon walking into the room, I immediately noticed that he was "resting" ... no wrinkles on his forehead ... no strained breathing ... peaceful ZZZZZ's ...

Nurse SweetTea introduced herself, but just let me be with Dad. After a good Word (Psalm 92:1-2), and a little prayer, SweetTea and I chatted ... [I still have not found the origin of the word "chit-chat"... please help ... anyone?]

SweetTea explained head trauma in a way that it finally hit home. Dad's got a lot of hurt going on in his body. Most of the other parts (heart, lungs, broken bones) are at the point of JustRest, meaning that they have stabilized and simply need rest for repair. On the other hand, the head has been severely bruised. That injury needs ExtraJustRest ... the head has been bruised and will need extra time to rest. We do not believe that Dad's sedation (by HeadCalmJuice) will cause further problems. The goal remains to lower the meds to allow continued neurological exams....

Thanks for the info, SweetTea.

2:00am: Mom called the TraumaCondo, just to get a word of assurance. That's what SweetTea provided ... [BTW, Mom named you ... because you had the sweetest, Southern, sounding voice ... Personally, I didn't notice ... remember ... I'm HAPPILY married! ...]

Thanks for Mom's assurance, SweetTea.

100% Update: ... Actually ...

We are still waiting for this morning's TraumaRounds. Don't be alarmed. Be silent. Be in prayer. Dad had a good night of rest and I will update you later. Thanks to Nurse SweetTea, who gave Mom a word of assurance over the phone at 2:00am last night.

How can you pass the time this morning while you wait? How about actually working! Your employer is paying you money to work. Justify your paycheck. How about actually reading to your kids! They need you more than we do right now. You can check back later during their mid-morning nap. How about actually calling a friend, or writing an email, to someone else on your mind! They could probably use the word of encouragement and would love to hear your voice. [We would, too, BUT we are waiting for TraumaRounds right and we won't be able to receive your note at this moment.]

I promise, I promise, I will let you know after I hear about what's in store for today.

[P.S. MyBeloved, I know you are not reading this right now ... you're reading books ... fixing EggToast ... and building the future. I love you.]

I'm Sick, You're Sick, Dad's Sick

Sunday, September 28, 2008

You can probably tell from my last few posts that I am major ZZZZ-Deprived. [Bit'O'Honey, that means "sleep deprived" ... I know ... I know ... it's hard keeping up.] After making more than 70 posts in the past week ... all related to the ViolentSilence ... I have decided that:

I am a sick man!
But that's okay, so are you!

I knew that I was going crazy when I stepped in the elevator the other day by myself ... that rarely happens at the TraumaCondo ... as I was riding up, the elavator stopped at the Fifth Floor. Get this, 6 Doctors piled into the elevator with me and pressed "11" ... I was going to "10" ... In those few seconds of silence, it took every ounce in my body not to say, "Doctor ... Doctor ..." [If you get it, you love Leslie Nielson. If you don't get it, you are either too old or too young.] Either way, if you are still reading the site, you are just as sick as I am.

And Dad is sick too!

The best way to describe Dad's condition at this point is "remains critical, making good and slow progress." Self, how can that be? Dad remains on significant pain and sedation medication, NoHurtJuice and CalmBrainJuice. The goal is to reach that fine line where the TraumaTeam can lower the meds to a point where Dad will respond neurologically and maintain a comfortable level without significant pain.

Can Dad raise his hand? Yes.
Can Dad move his arm? Yes.
Can Dad raise his thumb on command? Sometimes.
Can Dad open his eyes? Sometimes.
When he opens his eyes, can he see me? Don't know.
Does he know we are there? Yes.
Can he hear us? I strongly believe so.

What remains clear is that Dad has not been fully awake, fully revived to a point where he can open his eyes and say, "Hello wife dearest." or "Hello my son." or "Where is my other amazing child?"

You see, Dad's sick. And that's okay because so am I, and so are you.

100% Update: Remote Feed

This is the first time I am reporting from home. After a lesson from LogicLove on Matthew 21:23-32 ... Actions speak loudly ... I went home with MyBeloved, No. 1, No. 2, No. 3, No. 4 and No. 5. Wow, that's a mouthful! That's the first time I've said that or seen it on paper (screen). We had a great lunch of leftovers (little "l").

Talked to Mom at 2:30pm ... she reports the following:

  • Nurse Ponytail spent the day with Dad. He's been restless all day. Temperature has been good. Due to the major trauma dancing uncontrollably through the TraumaCondo, not a lot going on with Dad. Ponytail shaved Dad's beard ... Sorry PastorBeard, no competition in the Longest Beard Contest at this year's PresbyPicnic.
  • Dr. Trauma, [yea...the first one...] came by Dad's new unit, looked in, and said, "I am very glad to see you are still here." We are, too.

Prayer requests for the day and evening:

  1. Dad needs rest tonight. [I think they are going to start revving the engines tomorrow.]
  2. Dad needs to remain free from infection.
  3. Dad needs to hear words clearly.
  4. Dad needs his eyes to connect to his brain.
  5. Dad needs his lungs to strengthen.

“Now cracks a noble heart. Good-night sweet prince, And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest.” (Shakespeare)

100% Update: B.C. (Before Church)

Hi World! It's supposed to be a day of rest, but it seems like simply a catch-up day from having been AbsentDad for the past two weeks.

6:15am: Mom and U.P. were late this morning because both are directionally challenged. And Mom has only lived here 2 years. By the time they got to the TraumaCondo, they had missed the end of visiting hours ... Mom gave her best Marrion Cotillard explanation, and Nurse SmFryGuy allowed her to stay a minute to talk to and pray with Dad. SmFryGuy doesn't smell like the GoldenArchesCafe ... he's just small compared to Dad. Report was that Dad had a good night's rest [ ... thanks for your prayers ... ] and that he had good responses to minor verbal commands.

7:30am: I took No.1 and No.2 (my first child and second child) to the TraumaCondo this morning just so they can see where their Dad had been living recently. I think, for them, the best part was the DunkinGoNuts they got to eat for breakfast ... [mild chant, "Dad is great! He gives us choc-late cake."] ...

We stayed a couple of hours, waiting for TraumaRounds ... waiting ... waiting ... waiting. That's what generally happens on weekends, particularly where the Condos filled up last night. [...my stomach hurts when I think of all the LeftOvers that came in, too ... remember? ... the ones left behind to hurt and wonder why ...] Short story is that there were no rounds this morning.

9:50am: Finally got to see Dad ... NEWS FLASH! NEWS FLASH! ... Dad must have gotten a loan [... not from CountryWide or WashMutual ... but perhaps JPMorgan ... ] because he got moved from Unit #9 to Unit #14. Before you PTL, he is still in critical condition. The move just meant that many more ViolentSilences occurred last night that were more traumatic than Dad's. Hard to imagine. [Pray for them.] The good news ... that's little "g" and "n" ... is that Dad's new unit has a window, with sun in the morning. Bring in the Light!

Medically, Dad's just resting. What a good thing to do on Sunday. Off to church with No. 1 and No. 2 ... Talk later?

Pass the "w"ord ... Spread the "W"ord

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Who knew that the details of Dad's accident would reach Jerusalem, Canada, South America, or Nigeria? News of the ViolentSilence has reached all parts of Tennessee, Virginia, Maryland, New Jersey, New York, Texas, Minne-sowta, Florida, Oklahoma, New Mexico, Wisconsin, California, etc. Thanks to all of our friends and family in the World for passing on this information to the World. Special thanks to PrayerWarrior1 and PrayerWarriorToo for helping to make this journey global.

But our job is not yet finished. While Dad would certainly like you to hear "w"ord of his condition, ["slow is good ... slow is good ... fast doesn't last ... fast doesn't last"], he would be happier to know that the true "W"ord was being spread as a result of this incident. Some of you feel comfortable doing that, while others are still a little shy. But God can work through you to reach others in need ... GodThruMan ... Here's an example:

As I was recording this post [that's right, I've gone digital], Mom ran to me with a special prayer request. A family had just been brought to the TraumaCondo ... a mom and her four small children had just experienced their own ViolentSilence. Mom grabbed my hand and asked me to come pray with the LeftOvers (the family left behind to hurt and wonder).

Last week, that would have been awkard. Last week, there would have been doubt. Last week, I may have done it, but with hesitation.

Today, I stopped. Today, I dropped all my things. Today, I went to pray with those LeftOvers who did not have the strength to pray for their "mom and her four small children." Another instance of GodThruMan...


So here is Dad's desire, Mom's desire, and my desire for you: That you would spread the "W"ord by passing the "w"ord.

If you know which words to use, then make sure you pray for GodThruMan-strength before you press the SEND button. God will reach the right person through your email. If you don't know which words to use, try one of these below, cut/paste, fill out blanks, and press the SEND button. [I think FavCuz-C did this and got in trouble, but she was able to talk her way out...]

__________________________________________________________

OPTION 1 - FOR PINK WIRE EMAILS

"Dear _____________,

It's been awhile since we last spoke, but you have been on my heart and mind over the past few days. There's been some amazing things going on in Nashville, and I wanted to make sure you heard about this triumphant story of love. It's about a local pastor (nicknamed "Pappy Razor" / "SheepDog" . . . isn't that soooooo cute?) and his continuing journey from hurt to health. He remains in critical condition, but the miracles that have rained down on this family so far are truly amazing. Please do not turn off your computer today without checking http://www.growingandgrowing.com/.

By the way, I saw the movie Beaches again for the 20th time this weekend, and I cried through 3 tissue boxes, and then ate a pint of Ben&Jerry's. I miss you and I love you [ mom / sister / BFF ]. Please call soon. Gotta run to catch the rest of Oprah.

Love always, ____________"

OPTION 2 - FOR BLUE WIRE EMAILS"

"Dude, Check out this website: http://www.growingandgrowing.com/. Has a story about some nurses and this pastor dude. Out."

100% Update: Day Overview

It's 11:20pm and I have not had a chance to tell you what the rest of the day looked like at the TraumaCondo. First, I have to give my thanks to Nurse ChinaDoll, who was back on the One Week Anniversary of ViolentSilence. You see, ChinaDoll was Dad's caregiver on the day he first came to the trauma unit. I remember her deep focus then, and it was there today... only with a smile and a laugh. [Hey Dad, I bet you we surprised her by your continued fight. Keep it up, Dad!]

We had a new caregiver, as well. Nurse TattedRaven quietly introduced himself this morning, smiled, and quickly began care-giving. After some chit-chat [...where did that word come from?...], we found that that TattedRaven knew the PrayerWarriors' daughter. Talk about a small world. I guess he knew about our journey, too. Hope he stays until the end when we reach our 100% Recovery.

Mom went home, but she will be glad to hear that Dad's overnight assistance will be from Nurse Morpheus. I told him this already, but I will tell you that Morpheus is "Morpheus" because of his confident, reserved, soothing [that one is from Mom], and responsive demeanor. Tonight, with only a few minutes for my evening visit, Morpheus withstood the cross-examination of this seasoned lawyer / novice trauma guy. [Thanks for watching over Dad tonight.]


SoulWalk for Pastor Ray

Our most precious friends, the BakersDozen, met me at the hospital right after the ViolentSilence. There was confusion ... they watched quietly ... they prayed on the inside ... [That's okay, not everyone is as loud as me.]



Earlier today, the BakersDozen went on a SoulWalk for Pastor Ray. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! We Heart you.






Pink Wires, Blue Wires

I can't believe that the IQ of the World is so low, but I will explain this one more time. After this, you are on your own.
PINK WIRES = WOMAN
BLUE WIRES = MAN
That means ... if you are born Adam, then you have a lot of blue wires. And if you are born Eve, then you have a lot of pink wires. Now, let's see if you can follow this ... I will go very slowly.
  1. Every woman wants to marry a man that has the looks of blue wires, but the sensitivity, compassion, and encouragement of pink wires.
  2. Every man wants to marry a woman that has the looks of pink wires, but the problem-solving abilities and Sunday-afternoon-football-watching skills of blue wires.
  3. So let there be no confusion, we don't care what wires you were born with, we just like Nurses with some pink wires.

UPDATE: 9/28/08 12:57pm

Mom got word from God that we were too harsh on Nurse Shaved Head Guy and Nurse Fisherman because they were all blue wired and stuff. Sorry guys. You see, at that moment in time, Dad (and his recovery) needed you ... just the way you were created. We (selfish we) may have wanted a little more love, compassion and hand-holding, but at that time Dad needed you. Thanks, dudes.

Dear Dad, Your Family is Here

Dad,

It's Saturday afternoon and my body aches ... but not as much as yours. You are resting and that's good. Guess who finally came to visit? U.P. and Ostrich. They said if you were going to pull a stunt like this to get them to the MusicCity, then they would have raced here sooner. BroBill is also here. [Not sure if you remember, but he came last week too.]

Rest up so you can see them tomorrow. Maybe you will open your eyes and finally wake up. [Please?]

Me

CougarGuys Win, CaptainTwins Pray

As you heard yesterday, CaveBear left to return to Minne-sowta after we prayed with Dad as a family. He said See you, not Goodbye.

We are instructed in the Word to "Love your enemies." (Luke 6:27). Every now and then, our enemies love us. CaveBear had a soccer game scheduled in the afternoon for his CougarGuys, and the coach of the OtherTeam graciously picked CaveBear up from the airport. OtherTeam, not that you are an enemy, but thanks for the token. Final Score: CougarGuys 2; OtherTeam 0.

Rumor has is that CaptainTwins prayed out loud for the first time in their lives. For this, I humbly offer you a GodThruMan distinction. The other day, when she was unable to "articulate a thought" or "think a word" [I know, I know ... those are backwards ... "articulate a word" and "think a thought"], God spoke through Mom to give Dad a word of comfort and lower his ICPs ... thus, GodThruMom. Every now and then, Gods speaks through all of us ... to all of us ...

CaptainTwins, if you don't know this Lord that we talk about on a personal basis, please please please ask your coach [ ... he can teach you a lot more than just soccer ... I know ... ]. If you don't want to ask CaveBear, please email me. I would love to share with you about the power and peace that provides a reason for living for my Dad.

World, if you have been here from Day1 of the ViolentSilence, you know our journey. If you have just joined us, it' been a ... [no adjective can describe my thoughts at this point in time] ... journey. World, I hope and pray that you never have to see the inner workings of a TraumaCondo or that you never have to meet the TraumaTeam at their place of work ... [Who knows? You may be having dinner with one of them this evening and not know it ... or you may be the person changing the oil in their car ... or you may be one of their grandparents. ]

CaptainTwins and World, please learn from our visit to TraumaCondo (and from Dad's temporary lease from Unit #9) and find yourself some Light.

Dear World . . .

you think i have it all together.

i don't.

i'm just like you.

i'm growing

and

growing

and

my voice works.

yours can too.

100% Update: TraumaRounds

Enter stage left ... Dr. Trauma3.0 and a team of new main, semi-main, and non-main medical dudes and gals. On weekends, the team is a little lean, but we don't mind. Dr. Trauma3.0 has an aura of wisdom and confidence about him. His smooth silver hair (parted perfectly), his crisp white coat, and his calm/steady voice all made Mom feel comfortable on this morning that Dr. Trauma2.0 appeared absent. [So that you understand, Mom needs regularity ... a new face disrupts her area of comfort ... however small it may be at this point ... ]. Here's the update:

  • Dad's ICP levels have been maintained over the last 24 hours and he has not required BrainCalmJuice for some time now. They are recommending to take out the ICP port today.
  • Yesterday, it was reported that the All-You-Can-Drink feeding tube had been removed from Dad's mouth and that they were unable to insert a new tube through his nose. [That's weird ... Eating through your nose... That's as bad as drinking a coke through a wrapping paper tube ....] Dr. Trauma3.0 wanted to make sure that Dad got his time at the buffet line, so he ordered that a new feeding tube be restored through Dad's mouth. In other words, MedMilkshakes are better than SweetBagWater.
  • Another hurdle is the removal of the last chest tube. That's the end of the TubeGame. In case you have not been watching this game, the final score is: Ray 4, ChestTubes 0. Good win, Dad!
  • Final news is that Dad's breathing continues to grow stronger. Dr. Trauma3.0, who will be staying at the TraumaCondo this entire weekend, would like to see Dad off the LungRobot within the next 24 hours. So would we.

Let us know forget the purpose of our journey ... to glorify God through the circumstances in which we walk. Continue to pray for the following:

  1. On this 7th day after the ViolentSilence, pray for continued normal responses to neurological exams.
  2. Pray for full recovery of Mind, so that Dad can love the Lord as commanded.
  3. Pray for maintenance of the baby steps taken so far ... more inches forward ... no inches back ...

100% Update: It's a Rough Matrix

Nurse Morpheus watched over Dad last night. Through all the testing and procedures yesterday, Morpheus said that Dad was restless last night. He seemed real agitated, but finally did get some rest. [ ... when I say rest, I mean no stress, visible discomfort, etc. Sometimes when Mom, Chris or I visit Dad, you will see a peaceful calmness over his face. That's resting ... ] Morpheus reported that Dad had a slight temperature over the night, but it was treatable. Mom was able to see Dad for a few minutes at the TraumaCondo this morning before visiting hours were closed.

Nurse TooTall was cleaning Dad's head, face and mouth this morning ... with such care ... Hey TooTall, did you know that JesusChrist washed other people's dirty and hurt feet? Thanks, GodThruMan.

NightOwl Defines Happiness

Friday, September 26, 2008

MusicManSr. a/k/a NightOwl stops by Our Little Corner on the way to work (around 9:00pm) and on the way home (around 6:00am). He's quiet, but we appreciate his quiet wooo-wooo-wooo-ing. According to NightOwl, "happiness" is defined as:

R Rejoicing, Radiant, Religion, Reverent
A Asleep, Associate, Acknowledging, Adversity, Advocate, Agony, Aware, Awake, Awesome
Y Yesterday
D Devotion, Desire, Disciple
E Everlasting Love
V Valiant, Vigilant
R Rewarding, Relatives, Regret
I Injured, Inspired, Intense
E Educator, Encourage, Embrace, Energy, Empathy
S Spiritual, Shepherd, Strength, Suffer
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NightOwl, Thanks. You are so inspiring to my family during this time. Keep wooo-wooo-wooo-ing.

100% Update: My Stomach Hurts, Dad's Does Not

[Memo to self: Don't eat salad when you are running on empty and your nerves are shot, even if you are trying to be healthy.]

Mom and I just got kicked out of Dad's Unit #9 by Nurse Ponytail and Nurse SkinnyTransfer, who were packing up Dad to get some XRAYs. [In case Ponytail and SkinnyTransfer are reading this, we know that we didn't get kicked out, it just makes for a better read.]

First set of XRAYs from yesterday turned our great--no lower extremity damage. Today's XRAYs are to focus on the extent of the fractured pelvic/pelvis ... [too tired to Google the correct term or usage] ... Dad coughed ... opened eyes, but no focus ...

Dad's tummy is doing great! Ponytail said that they tried to put an All-You-Can-Drink feeding tube down Dad's nose this afternoon, but he was not having it. They tried five times. Dr. Trauma2.0 is not too worried about getting the tube inserted immediately and they may try again later today or tomorrow. [Did you hear that, Dad, Dr. Trauma2.0 called you FAT!]

Since Dad has been through a lot today, Ponytail says that today's goals for the rest of the afternoon are to simply rest. Here's a shade tree in the pasture for you SheepDog:

First Guardian Angel Found...Others Still Missing

That's right, GuardianAngel1 (and his lovely wife) found us yesterday afternoon sitting in Our Little Corner. Actually, he called me earlier this week, but he forgot to leave his number. [I forgive you GA1, because you found us.]


World, meet GA1.
GA1, meet World.

GA1 was one of the first earthly angels on the scene after the accident. [There were other earthly angels and perhaps they will find us soon. But we also know that capital "A" Angels were watching over Dad on Saturday morning.] GA1 pulled up to see a broken, hurt car on the side of the road. [...details still fuzzy... for me...] GA1 somehow got Dad's keys from one side of the car and unlocked the passenger side. He looked for Dad's cell phone. Finally found it and passed it on to another earthly angel. GA1 described Dad's look, condition, drive, focus and determination. [I'll save those details for when I, Chris, Mom, Dad, and you are ready.]

Short story is that GA1 was one of the first at the scene. He was gone by the time I got there. As I stood on my tiptoes, calves burning from their desire to lift me up to view my Dad, I was in my own world. The blaring red lights, the humming power generators, and the screaming JawMachine tried to interrupt my violent silence.

After pulling Dad out of the car, which was speckled with pieces of BurntSand, the EMTAngels wheeled Dad to his safety ride. OrangeSpeedRacer slowly backed down the road, turned around, and sprinted off to meet the Teams at what would become Dad's new TraumaCondo. I walked slowly, quizzingly, and empty, back to my car. GA1 pulled up in his truck and approached me with a soft smile and softer voice. He handed me Dad's keys, gave me some 411, and put his arm on my shoulder. I didn't remember what GA1 said [that is, until yesterday], but I remembered his compassion.* Thanks GA1. I look forward to the day when I introduce you, and your lovely bride, to Dad.

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* Let there be no mistake--the Bible is the true Word of God and Jesus Christ is the only way to eternal salvation. But sometimes, when you least expect it, you may find prose from another religion that sheds light on your circumstances. According to the teachings of Buddha, "Compassion is that which makes the heart of the good move at the pain of others. It crushes and destroys the pain of others. Thus, it is called compassion. It is called compassion because it shelters and embraces the distressed." GA1, thanks again for your compassion.

ThanksThanksThanksThanks (cont'd)

A couple of days ago, we started to convey our thanks for your prayers, support, dinners, babysitting, etc. That list continues to grow, but my mind also continues to overload on compartmentalization. [Is that even a word? If so, I would be kicking your dairy-air on FaceBook Scrabble right now, Courtney.] Like I said, I have that growing list, but if I forget you on these pages, please forgive. Today, I have quick minute to shout out to Bit'o'Honey and SweetStuff for taking care of Mom's feminine side at the hospital. [That didn't sound right, did it?] See below for what I mean. . . . Thanks ladies!



100%: TraumaRound Update

This was my second day in a row to participate in TraumaRounds, which is an interesting but wonderful process. No time for chit-chat...here's the morning update:

  1. ICP monitoring is no longer a "critical" issue and they may remove the ICP Monitor.
  2. Dr. Yuck, a fellow, gave some good reports ... Dad is up to his goals on tube feeds ... good renal functioning (i.e., strong kidneys)
  3. Dr. Trauma2.0 also gave great reviews ... chest incision looks "really good and healing well" ... this will allow DoctorTeam to proceed with the tracheotomy ... which in turn will allow DoctorTeam to clean and clear out mouth, throat, bronchial areas ... which in turn will help stave off infection ... Dr. Trauma2.0 brought another smile to Mom's face, saying that "we are real grateful to see him making some progress..." Another little nugget: the bleeding on the brain that was showing in the CT Scans was bleeding from the trauma, as opposed to evidence of a large bruise to the brain (Does that distinction make sense? It does to me, but I may just be delirious.)
  4. We saw Nurse Bootcamp again, who reminded Mom that "slow is good ... slow is good ... fast doesn't last ... fast doesn't last"
  5. Finally, we were introduced to Nurse Ponytail. Soft spoken and compassionate ... we have no reason to expect anything less given the excellence of team NurseTeam.

To Courtney, From Mom

"I want you to know that I am carrying a picture of you and kids with me. I know that you want to be here with me, with Pappy Razor, but know that you are with us. You are in my spirit, in my heart, and I relate and share all your love for Pappy to Pappy."

Mom

100% Update: Not Goodbye, But See You

Psalm 92:1-2

It is good to give thanks to the Lord
And to sing praises to Your name, O Most High;
To declare Your lovingkindness in the morning
And your faithfulness by night, . . .

Seems likes it's either morning or night here at the TraumaCondo, and sometimes I can't tell the difference. What I do know is that I pray these words every time I leave Dad's Unit #9: "May the Lord's lovingkindness protect you in the morning, and may His faithfulness keep you safe at night, Dad."

5:10am: Chris, Mom and I were able to see Dad at the same time. Last night, we made a specific request that the three of us (at the same time) could pray at Dad's bedside before Chris returned to Minne-sowta. A very special person with ruby slippers arranged it for us. [Note: If having three people pray for Dad at his bedside violates some administrative rule (i.e., that big white sign that says NO MORE THAN 2 VISITORS), then ... "It did not happen .... It's all rumor VandyAdmin ... These are not the droids you are looking for..." (waiving my hand)...] Here's an update:

  • Nurse Morpheus (from The Matrix) told us that Dad must have known that Mom was coming to see him this morning. ICP's were chilling out at 7-8 all night. About 15 minutes before we got there, ICP shot up to about 25. Mom grabbed his hand, prayed for him and calmed him down = ICP at 13. Nice one, GodthroughMom!

  • Elevated temperature last night. Lucky Dad got this ColdBlanket that has cold slushy water (at least that's what it feels like) running through it. Temp came down by the time we got there. We like Dad's PrayerBlanket better...let's pray the ColdBlanket away for good. (Maybe I can take it home?)

  • Three more FunkyPrayerRequests answered last night. Good job, Dad. Sorry, Morpheus.

Specific prayer requests for today include:

  1. Continued in improvement in neurological responses
  2. Improvement in lung functions and capacity
  3. Pray for the orthopedic doctors to be able to perform comprehensive assessment of his fractures and develop a protocol to treat him.
  4. Remain infection free

One final note: (Don't they say to leave the best for last?) Chris was catching a FlyingBus to Minne-sowta this morning. Mom's sad, but understands. Mom's scared, but needn't be. Mom said Goodbye...Chris corrected her, saying I'll see you soon.

[Chris, thanks for letting me get to know you better this week. Sorry that it took this kind of incident to bring us closer, but I think I am beginning to understand why ... Because Dad's journey is changing people all over the world, including me. Why us, Lord? Why not?]

Coach's Corner: Afternoon Rounds . . . A Little Late (by Chris)

Thursday, September 25, 2008

I am sure most of you are checking regularly to get your updates. Matt let you know of all the progress up until about 1:00pm. This update will start with my wife Deb, SisterFargo. I dropped her off at the airport to catch a flight back to Minnesota to relieve Grandma and Grandpa Heckert from babysitting. She was scheduled to fly Nashville-Memphis-Minneapolis and arrive at 4:00pm. Once at the gate, they asked for volunteers to take a bump. Deb said, "Yes," as long as they could get her to Minneapolis today. [Hospital...Airport....God is working everywhere....] Deb was able to switch to the direct flight to Minneapolis that was boarding at the time, she received a $300.00 voucher and she arrived in Minneapolis 3 hours earlier than scheduled. Plus she had the entire row to herself to stretch out and get some sleep in the flight. Deb is now home safe with the kiddos.

Now on to Dad: Mom and I went up at about 1:00pm, but we had to wait outside the room for awhile. Matt told you earlier about that "special, stinky prayer request" and it appears that Dad was receiving another bath after that prayer was answered. We then spent the next 2.5 hours with Dad. During that time, his ICP stayed under 10 and we had a great time talking with Nurse RubySlippers. Mom got to spend the next hour rubbing Dad's feet with lotion, as I watched the IPC go down to 6.

Around 3:00pm, XRAYGirl and XRAYGuy come into Dad's TraumaCondo . . . they have to do a series of x-rays on his chest and scapula. After Mom helped calm Dad down from all the moving around, we got ready to leave. Like a flash of lightening, all of a sudden, Dr. Trauma2.0, Dr. BigVoice and Dr. NiceNeuro stopped by the hut for a little tea. (What am I saying? This is Nashville. . . It was sweet-tea.) Dr. Trauma2.0 explained that the progress with Dad has been good and that they are planning to remove the ICP monitor from his head so long as the ICP levels continue to stay low throughout the night. He also explained that they are going to start a more detailed assessment of his orthopedic needs...thus introduction of XRAYGirl and XRAYGuy. We should have a idea of the next steps to be taken to start fixing the broken bones by tomorrow.

Dr. BigVoice and Dr. NiceNeuro (collectively referred to hereinafter as "NEO-Guys") then step in to do an aggressive neurological exam. They poke at Dad and yell at him to open his eyes and move his hand/arm up to his chest -- and “HE DOES IT." Dad worked hard for that 10 seconds, but HE DID IT. For the first time, NEO-Guys smiled at Mom and said that Dad looks good . . . Mom started crying. [I guess you can't please us. . . we cry when you're grumpy. . .we cry when you're nice. . . go figure!?!?!?]

In the words of my Dad, “GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME...ALL THE TIME GOD IS GOOD."

At 9:00pm, I called Dad at his TraumaCondo, Unit #9. This will be the first night that all three of us (Mom, Matt and myself) will sleep at home . . . [not in the same bed, of course, you sicko!] NurseNewGuy (we have not met him yet) tells me that Dad is stable and his numbers are where they were throughout the day.

Dad, sleep well tonight and we will all see you in the morning.

There's No Place Like Home. . . TNPLH. . .

Since she holds such a special place in our heart--going back to the first day she helped resolve a major communication problem--Nurse RubySlippers' ruby slippers will be featured below. Notice the glimmer and shine! Reminds us that there's no place like home. . .

[Note: I still can't believe she's married to ChurchofChristDude, but I guess we all have our funky religion issues. For example, as a Presby, I had a submit this entry to the Blog Committee for approval before publishing it.]

Aunt Ostrich, Sheepdog Needs You!

Over the past week, I have been updating my Dad's siblings (Aunt Ostrich, U.P., and BroBill) about his condition. Well, today I had been chatting with one of the FavCuz's* about getting some family out here to the Music City. [Yep. we were scheming!]

And since one of the siblings hates to make decisions (she has pink wires) and, instead, drives her head in the ground like an ostrich, me and FavCuz-L and FavCuz-C decided to decide for her. (Did I say that she was indecisive?)

Aunt Ostrich, Dad (and Mom) need you! Please come see us, eat some gravy on your salad (its a Southern thing), bring some Taylor Pork Roll, see your brother, and stay with Mom. [How's that, Cuz? Think she'll come now?]

Oh, yeah, you can come too U.P. . . . BroBill has already been here.


* Favorite Cousins

Well, How Do I Say This?

Let's just say that Mom's Funky Prayer Request, the last one, from 11:21am yesterday. . . well . . . let's just say that God answers all kinds of prayer requests. Enough said.

100% Update: Running Late & Love at First Sight

I know, I know, Nelson and all those other G&G Addicts are going crazy. It has been a very long morning. I had planned to go home this morning, pass the torch to the CaveBear (Chris), and spend some time with Courtney for her B-Day. [Note: Thanks to all those who sent her an email. It really, really cheered her up and got me out of the doghouse. Click here if you still want to sent her a Birthday Wish.] What ended up happening instead was round after round after round of good reports. So I am running late, but here is the update:

5:00am: Mom arrived and got to meet Nurse BlackSlippers. Apparently, Dad knew Mom was there because his blood pressure (not ICP) started to rise. Apparently, Dad knew Mom was there because he opened his eyes. . . . [He probably saw Sleeping Beauty...Get it? Mom's his Princess Bride, but she's a walking zombie....me funny...]

8:45am: Deb, who I will now start calling SisterFargo because she talks like every character in that movie, yah, and I went to the TraumaRounds. The best way to describe TraumaRounds is there is one main medical dude with a large clipboard, 5 semi-main medical dudes and gals with medium clipboards, and between 5-10 other non-main medical dudes and gals with mini clipboards who are walking together through the TraumaCondo. They stopped at Dad's Unit #9 and started their thing. Their "thing" sounded more like a dull day on the stock market floor, with random medical dudes and gals with clipboards of all sizes speaking out random words. I knew a few of the words, but not many. [Bet they don't know what res ipsa loquitur means or what a no-damages-for delay clause means in a construction contract...back at you doc!] Here's what we learned in English:

  1. Dr. $$, the main medical dude today, said that Dad's condition has not gotten worse. (To us believers, that means Dad's condition improved.) Dr. $$ reported eloquently that there are no acute cardiac issues (good news); another chest tube will be taken out (only one left); and Dad is breathing on his own, plus a little push of air (8Resp) because it is like "he is breathing through a straw and we want to help him."
  2. Dr. NiceNeuro, who I think is Dr. BigVoice's partner in crime, reports that Dad is maxed out on HeadPainFunkyJuice, but that's okay because Dad has maintained his ICP at a steady place all night, and even chilled out around 7-9 this morning.
  3. Someone, don't remember who, said that Dad's incision from top to bottom belly (remember dissecting that frog in 6th Grade?) looked great. . . No bleeding . . . No swelling . . . . Good closure.

10:50am: Mom and Pastor LittleBabies went to pray with Dad before he sat up for his All-You-Can-Drink milkshake tube. When Mom entered the room, Dad's blood pressure (not ICP) began to elevate. . . [He knows she's there!] . . . They prayed, she tickled his arm, his blood pressure went down, he grabbed her hand while Nurse ThroatCleanerDude cleaned Dad's mouth. And then. . .

Get this . . .

Are you ready? . . .

He opened his eyes multiple times. . .

. . . It was love again at first sight.

The Cave...You Happy Chris?

(Ok, Ok, you can stop complaining...here is a picture of your Cave!)

Mom Speaks!!!

“Trust and Joy in the Midst of Trouble”

Though the fig tree does not blossom, and no fruit is on the vine, though the produce of the olive fails, and fields yield no food; though the flock is cut off from the fold, and there is no herd in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the Lord; I will exult in the God of my salvation. God, the Lord, is my strength; he makes my feet like the feet of a deer, and makes tread upon the heights. Habakkuk3:17-19

Beloved saints, my heart overflows with love and gratitude for all you have done for the DeVries family in this “midst of trouble.” As I sit quietly in Our Little Corner while Matt and Deb wait upstairs for medical rounds (Christian is in the Cave), I struggle to wrap my mind around what has transpired these last five days. I seem to have blank spaces in memory. I hear your voices…Pat you need to eat something, you need to sleep, drink some water. I have been unable to make even the simplest of decisions. I hear the voices of Ray’s doctors and caregivers. Their mouths move, sounds come out, but what they are saying doesn’t register in my mind. The only thing I see and know is my beloved Raymond is broken and wounded and I am unable to hold in my arms. I can’t hear his gentle voice and feel his tender touch.

I sit here and tears are streaming down my face and then I look up and PrayingJoe walks out of the chapel and smiles at me. He is getting ready to begin his rounds as a security guard for the hospital. He walks around and reaches out to me and tells me he has just lifted Ray up in pray once again. PrayingJoe shares a little and tells me about his life and when he was lost and how his life is today. His heart is full of love for the Lord. He tells me that daily he reminds himself “who he belongs to.” In his gentle quiet manner, he begins to put me at ease and the tears stop. My head begins to clears and the fog begins to lift.

PrayingJoe leaves me with these words: “When I was lost, I wasn’t able to think clearly and I made stupid choices…regretful choices. But I am not lost anymore and now I can (and choose to) rejoice in the Lord every moment of the day.” PrayingJoe grasps my hand, smiles, reminds me he is praying for Ray and goes off to work.

The fog is clearing and I am drawn to Scripture. I open my Bible to Ray and my anchor Scripture verses found in Habakkuk. I can hear Ray’s voice in my ear, I feel his hand in mine and his arm around me as he stands firm in those words. He reminds me gently in my spirit that these words of assurance have brought us though many trials and they will get us through this trial. I hear him asking, “Who loves you Pat?” (It’s a game we play.) I say, “You do of course.” Once again, he says, “Who loves you Pat? Who really loves you?” I answer, “God, my Heavenly Father.” He says, “Bingo…you win the prize! Now let’s get out from under our circumstances and begin to do some rejoicing in the Lord. Let’s praise God for all his faithfulness in the past. Let’s get on with getting on. Let’s get on with living….[Ray loves Red from Shawshank Redemption].”

The time has come for the “Cedars of Lebanon” (Christian and Matthew) to spread their branches and resume their God ordained calling as husbands, fathers and return to their respective calling. This last week, their branches wrapped tightly around me, sustained me, comforted me, cried with me, scolded me and always loved me.

Thank you my sons, thank you my daughters, thank you Kings and Princesses (our grandchildren) for allowing you husband and daddy to take care of Pappy Razor and Puckie this last week. I love you with all my heart.

JESUS, LET YOUR BEAUTIFUL PRESENCE ALWAYS BE WITH US!!!!

Mom

100% Update: Last Call

Must get sleep...eyes shutting every few minutes...but wanted to give you the evening update before I sought out one of those lovely "can't seem to recline all the way back" chairs on Second Floor.

Nurse BlackSlippers (Yes, can you believe it? Just like RubySlippers, but BlackSlippers), joined us for her first time. Chris and Deb made the first visit this evening, then Chris and I, then Chris and I again, then Mom'sLad and I, then Mom'sLad and I again, and finally OakTree and I. Here's a summary of the evening's neurological testing:

  • Movement on hands = good
  • Movement on legs = good
  • Movement on head = good
  • Movement on eyes = much better...Dad opened eyes more regularly
  • ICP = maintained good rate during all testing
  • ICP = overall maintained 12-15

After having gone to look at the car today [Memo to Self: Follow-up with insurance company tomorrow], I am amazed that Dad did not suffer more damage to the lower extremities. I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on t.v., but Dad's left knee shows significant swelling. I tell BlackSlippers and Nurse J2 (who happens to be working at the Trauma Condo next door) . . . both ladies agree about the swelling . . . BlackSlippers she says she will follow-up with Dr. BoneFixer. [Memo to BlackSlippers: Follow-up with Dr. BoneFixer in the morning.]

As I leave for the evening/morning/day (whatever time you want to call it), I tell BlackSlippers to make sure she watches over Dad. Genuine smile . . . she says, "I will." Thanks. Here are Dad's 24-hour goals:

  1. Get rest tonight.
  2. Keep heart strong.
  3. Keep lungs strong.
  4. Keep mind strong. (Remember God's Word, Dad!)
  5. Get up in the morning.

What would a "last call" update be without some kind of return to the Word. Bubbles shared with Mom some words of encouragement from John 14. I did not hear that entire conversation, but later, in my quiet time, I read the passage. Later, later, in my quiet time with Dad and Chris, I read the passage again. Later, later, later, in my quiet time with OakTree, I read the passage again. Later, later, later, later, in my quiet time with Mom'sLad, I read the passage one final time for the evening. As I reflect on Dad's goals for tomorrow (see above), you tell me whether the Bible is the Living Word:

26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.

27 Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful.

28 You heard that I said to you, "I go away, and I will come to you." If you loved Me, you would have rejoiced because I go to the Father, for the Father is greater than I.

29 Now I have told you before it happens, so that when it happens, you may believe.

30 I will not speak much more with you, for the ruler of the world is coming, and he has nothing in Me;

31 but so that the world may know that I love the Father, I do exactly as the Father commanded Me. Get up, let us go from here.

(John 14:26-31)

What's Your Nickname"

I am sitting here with Mom'sLad and OakTree. We've had a good evening of talking, Word-reading, and praying. Mom'sLad asked, "What's your nickname?"

Me...blank stare into space...ignore the question....

World, what do you think? What's my nickname? Leave a comment.

Dear Beloved Courtney

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

It's late, my tummy hurts, my eyes blister, and my heart yearns. I am torn between here and there. My life is here and my life is there. My future is here and my future is there. My old faith is here and my new faith is there. Dad's blue eyes are here and Faith's blue eyes are there. I am torn between here and there. I want you here, but I need you there.

I know that these past two weeks have been a whirlwind. It's sad that I have to write these words, but our phone calls are too short and too seldom. The best I can say right now is that we will prevail through these trials. You are such a strong, Godly woman! You see lots of kids calling Mommy/Mommy....I see you building a future of believers. You see a cluttered house.....I see a love-worn home. You see exhaustion of body....I see refinement of spirit.

When we said, "I do," please remember our deal, promise, agreement, covenant....that life would not always be easy, but that we would always be together for life. Earlier I said that I was here and I said that you were there. But now I know, we are here and there.

Good night my beloved.

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[Note: If you are spying on our love affair by reading this personal note to my wife, I guess that's okay. But please do me a favor and send Courtney an email wishing her a HAPPY BIRTHDAY . . . She turns 30 (that's right, 5 kids before 30) tomorrow, September 25th, 2008. Even if you don't know her, send her a note for me. Click here!]

Prayers for Others

This is the stained glass background behind the prayer alter in Rhea Chapel, the chapel next to Our Little Corner. As I sat here this evening, I thought about this website, Dad's new Trauma Condo, the stinky couches, and the ever-present hum screaming from the Coke machine.

Every now and then, I hear the TraumaChopper bringing in broken bones, random cries, and crushed spirits. I've met alot of those people...I told their family I would pray for them...I have prayed for them...Will you?

  • Michael McKenzie, hurt
  • Ryan Corning (Dad's Condo neighbor, 20yr-old), very hurt
  • Bobby Cobb, hurt
  • Geneva & Johnny, hurt
  • Reba White, hurt
  • Mrs. Myrtle, surgery
  • Carol Sue, surgery
  • Joyce Aimes, hurt

Thank you Prayer Warriors!

ThanksThanksThanksThanksThanks

So many emails, calls, notes, and visits...how can we possibly thank you for your prayers and support? We say special thanks to . . . Pastor GentleSpirit, who has come everyday and reminds Mom of Dad in his soft-spoken way; Pastor FishFry, who offered every resource of his church during this difficult time; Pastor LittleBabies, who snuck up to the Tenth Floor without a pass to pray for (and with) Dad and who shared with Mom his admiration of Dad's determination; Pastor Goatee who brought with him his soothing smile; Pastor Beard, who just showed up at the right time, put his hand on Mom's shoulder, and prayed with us for Dad ("After Lunch"); Bubbles, who gave Mom a good word from the Word (John 14) earlier today; Laptop, who gave her whole day to be a security guard at Our Little Corner so that we could see Dad without packing up; the Tuesday Morning Crew, who let Mom join us for our weekly bible study this week...at a different location; NelsonMandela, P-Pet, JrRunner and JrSinger, who have become part of our family; the BessieHarris Kids, who ventured out in the world, out of their comfort zone, to see, kiss, hug and love on Mom; the OakTree who stands firm, prays hard, and gets police reports; the OakTreeWife, who sat with Chris, gave hugs, and visited everyday...with a smile; OuterCircleChic, who has spunk and tenacity and loves, loves, loves; FunkySkinnyPants, who tirelessly and without complaint sought ice for our little bottles of coke (notice I didn't' say "pop" or "soda"); JrFlyer, who admires Dad's influence and laid his head on Mom's shoulder...she loved that; BG, who brings the "very best" snacks, lunch and dinner, even if it's from the country club; NurseVol, who pushes us to ask the right questions and herds the volunteers; Aunt V, who introduced herself quietly and prayed quietly; StrawberryMom, who pushed prayers into squares and watched over the camp overnight while Mom finally got rested; MusicMan, SingingSoul and JrActive, who stood as a family by our family; Mom'sLad, who Mom&Dad cherished the first day they met and who now gives Mom a big, warm hug everyday; SteadyMan, who works, prays, and smiles; the WordFamily, who showed up at the beginning and who watches our lil' ones; VillageSis, who is a shout away from Mom and Dad, just like a sister; SkinnyBigMac, who WITHOUT COMPLAINT and FULL OF SMILES just sits with Mom; Giggles, who brought warm soup for Mom's soul; Peaches, who had a penny, but gave a nickel; the Prayer Warriors, who...well...it's kinda self explanatory...but who lifted (and continue to life) our eyes upward; SouthernDrawl and JrCats, who tied knots of love and held steady; 24/7MusicMom, who brought nourishment and joy...we know she was singing inside; and LogicLove, who brings reason, compassion, encouragement, leadership and love...and likes himself.

There many more, but my eyes are blurring. More to come later. . .

Here Comes the Bride...Nurse Newbie

Mom just told me that Nurse Newbie is getting married next week. Congrats! Thank you for investing your time, talent and heart in my Dad's recovery this past week. It means the world to us...and to the world!

UPDATE: Looks like some of the little chickens have been sneaking out of the coop during lunch and logging onto the Internets to find out what's up with Dad (i.e., even Nurse Newbie). Check out the comments below to see what she's up to in the next week.

Nurse Newbie, you thank us....but we thank you....from the bottom of our hearts....call if you need some extra Morton's.

100% Update: Afternoon Delight

4:00pm: They brought some toothpaste, a toothbrush, a comb, and some lotion up to Dad's Condo Unit this afternoon. Isn't it funny how some of the people up here are so gloomy (i.e. not letting our hope clear their clouds), while other optimists are ready for Dad to pick up some Crest, shine his chipped smile, and grease back his hair. Here's what happened this afternoon:

  1. Nurse Cheerleader, chipper as ever, was starting some neurological testing. Sedation had been turned off for about 1/2 hour, and when Cheerleader pinched Dad's leg right above the thigh, those feet started tapping. Ditto with the hands.
  2. Enter the Condo, Nurse Ruby Slippers, who almost immediately called me fat! (I'm sad.) Well, she said it in more words than that. Ruby Slippers gave me the "Big Guys Have A Harder Time Metabolizing (And Therefore Wearing Off) Sedation Medication" speech. Since Dad and I are "big guys," that may be a reason why neurological testing is not that responsive after they turn off the funky juice. That was not going to stop Ruby Slippers from trying to wake up Dad.
  3. "RAY, WAKE UP!" she yelled. "RAY, OPEN YOUR EYES!" she screamed as she pinched the nerves between his thumb and pointer finger. Dad twitched his feet. Dad moved his hands. Dad even opened his eyes for a second. Ruby Slippers called my Mom over so that she could see, but Dad was too tired to play any more dog and pony tricks.
  4. In the end, it was reported that Ruby Slippers woke up 5 other patients while trying to talk to Dad...you go girl!
  5. Wanna hear some better news? ICP remained 12-13 during the neurological testing.
  6. Dr. Big Voice came by at the end. I said, "Things are looking good, right? Better than yesterday." Big Voice said "We'll see." And he departed. (grumpy)

Six Million Dollar Dad ... starring Ray DeVries

3:00pm-ish

ALBUM STAT = RAYMOND DEVRIES

Dad finally got his name back today. When admitted to the Trauma Unit, he was given a "STAT" name and all information about his condition, his status, his name, or even his being admitted here was HIGHLY CONFIDENTIAL (...this whole incident kinda reminds me of the introduction to Six Million Dollar Man...). In our case, though, GOD is fully restoring Dad.



In case you tried to call the hospital prior to today, you were probably told that there was no record of Ray DeVries. Let me assure you, Ray DeVries lives strong on the Tenth Floor. You can't see him right now, you can't call him right now, but he is growingandgrowing.com each day. If you want to send a note, you can email us here, or send a card to Mom at this address. No longer Stat Album...fully Ray DeVries.

100% Update: Before Lunch, After Lunch

Before Lunch:

I got here at about 10:45am -- fifteen minutes before last call -- and ran up the Floor Ten. Nurse Cheerleader reported that they were going to take out the "PA Heart Monitor." (Did I say that right, Cheerleader?) Googled it, but couldn't find a good explanation for what this machine does. Best I can say is that this monitor was a "direct" line to monitor Dad's heart and that Dad's heart is doing well enough that he no longer needs it.

ICPs around 21-25. . . :(

Lunch:

Nice salad with grilled chicken, Grey Poupon dressing, courtesy of my friends at Richland Country Club. [Golf Clap...Thank You BG!]

After Lunch:

ICPs between 12-16. . . :)

Dad had this throat cleaned by Nurse Throat-Cleaner Dude, who found lots of yuck. Nurse J1, with a cheerful and refreshing smile, explained that this was to prevent infection in once the balloon in Dad's throat is cleared out later.

Chris/Deb called the feeding tube by the name "oatmeal tube." I asked J1 where was the "oatmeal tube" . . . she pointed, saying we call it "milk shake." Whether oatmeal or milk shake, Mom heard Dad's stomach grumble. Mom, maybe that prayer will be answered this afternoon.

As we were praying for Dad, Pastor Beard put his arm on Mom. This was the first time we had 3 people in Dad's Trauma Condo. I guess being a Pastor has its privileges.

To Nelson, You Are Sick!

I just got the following email:

"I am absolutely addicted to your website. . . I suspected it was becoming a problem when I couldn't wait to get to work every morning so I could log in and read. It became VERY apparent today when found myself becoming impatient waiting for the next installment...in between my various responsibilties here at work, this is something how my morning went...9:00am, nothing yet...9:43, nope...10:12am, Come on!...10:33, Are you kidding me, still nothing???...11:02 (withdrawals kicking in), That's it!! I going to fire off a message to the webmaster when I get back from lunch! 12:47 ALAS!!! A new post...no wait 2 new posts. Thank you...thank you...thank you."

Yes, my friend, you are SICK! But we thank you for the love and prayers. Mom chuckled.

Wait, Mr. Postman

Wait, oh yes wait a minute mister postman
Wait, wait mister postman
Mister postman look and see
If there's a letter in your bag for me
I been waiting such a long time
To send love to that Pastor of mine.

Many of you asked whether you can send something to Mom (a card, a note of encouragement, a picture of your family, anything). Use this address and we will make sure it gets to the right person:

DeVries Family
2592 Kanlow Drive
Antioch, TN 37013


[Note: Please, please, please, do not send large, sick, insane amounts of cash, Cadillacs, or trips to the Caribbean…Save those for when Dad gets home.]

100% Update: Morning Rounds

This is the first day that we were able to actually catch the doctors on morning rounds. This is where the team of doctors and caregivers (about 12 people) go to each patient's Trauma Condo discuss what has been transpiring and the treatment goals for the day. Here are some of the Trauma Team's findings:

  1. Dad's ICP (intra-cranial pressure) has been over 20 only 19% of the past 24 hours. For the Liberal Arts majors who don't understand math or science, that means 80% of the time we are in a good zone. This was achieved mostly on his own due to the fact that his blood saturation is over the limit to treat him with a stronger medication. They will monitor blood levels and only treat with the medication when levels are good and it is medically necessary. (Point of reference: when you sneeze your ICP goes up to about 20 or so, unless you are a Walt Disney character named Sneezy, then its about 50).
  2. They will remove the tube in Dad's chest which was draining fluid after closing up his chest. . . that wonderful tube has done its job. They will also remove one of the tubes in his lungs, which has been draining fluid. Good tubes. This will bring him from four tubes down to two tubes.
  3. They gave Dad a bath at 5:00am. Mom was home resting for the first time, while Dad was bathing with Nurse Newbie and Nurse Short Stuff. (Look at you go, Sheepdog!)
  4. The amount of food they are giving him will increase throughout the day, which is helpful in lowering the amount of ICP-lowering drugs in the system.
  5. The ENT (ear, nose, throat) doctors came by to test Dad's nerve responses in his face. The concern was that the fracture behind his ear may have severed/tore/pinched a nerve which runs through that bone which controls blinking, smiling and general face movement. They pressed electrical impulses onto his cheek and he came through with all the responses they were looking for--"Great News!" Mom named the two ENT's Dr. Cutie One and Dr. Cutie Too.

NEWS FLASH!!! NEW CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT!!!

The nurse shift has changed and Nurse Cheerleader and Nurse Quiet Soulguy are in charge today!!! Cheerleader has a lot of energy and is eager to help. Quiet Soulguy doesn't say much, but you can feel the compassion...we all think he might have a pink wire or two. Nurse Ruby Slippers (remember her?) came up to offer some words of encouragement and was a peach as usual. Nurse J1 is also on today and reminded us that everyone heals differently and at different rates and to be patient . . . no pun intended.

In case you want to say a prayer, here's what Dad needs:

  • Reduced swelling in the brain with continual ICP levels under 15.
  • 100% free from infection.
  • Normal neurological responses.
  • Continued development of lungs and clearing out of blood, mucus, clots and other yuck.

Here is the MOST IMPORTANT one:

  • Keep Dad's memory (i.e. not just his ability to tie his shoes, but his spiritual giftedness and continuation of his ministry.) Dad needs to remember why he is fighting, who he is fighting for, and the instruction manual (NSRV of course) for life on this earth. Height's CP Church, Princeton Seminary, Russelville CP Church, Eastlake, Woodbine and all the quiet times in the Word--he needs to remember that first and foremost.

Mom wanted to add these request:

  • A bowel movement -- Pray for poop!

Thanks for your support.

Coach's Cave, Part 2 (by Chris)

Its 1:00 am and I am went to see Dad again.

When I returned this morning at 1:00am, I noticed something different . . . Dad was sitting up a little bit. Our wonderful caretakers (pink wires) where given permission to elevate Dad's head to help with the ICP level in his brain. This is of importance because he has been lying flat on his back the entire time due to the fractures in his pelvic and tail bone. For the first time in the last 36 hours, I watched his ICP levels drop to 12 and average 15-16. He still has a ways to go but they were lower then at 9:00pm when I chatted with him.

They noticed another thing of importance, for me at least. He looked as if he was sleeping peacefully and not just lying in hospital bed with tubes coming out of him. The tubes and monitors are still there, they just don't seem as prominent as before.

They also where measuring his fluids in the suction containers and the levels from his chest tubes are down compared to previous reading. Good news: “the lungs are starting to clear."

As I got ready to leave for the night, Dad's caretakers informed me that they had asked the orthopedic specialist if they could raise his head more . . . hopefully when I return in the morning with Mom he will be sitting up more.

Off to my cave as Cindy--thank you so much--will sit watch in corner. Mom and Deb are suppose to be here by 5:00am so Mom can spend time with the caretakers to get the real scoop on the night . . . we know that the nurses run the show.

Coach's Cave, Part 1 (by Chris)

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

In our little corner I have been able to build myself a cave to catch some zzzz when needed. Tonight we sent Matt home to spend time with his family and sleep in his own bed, which I am sure he has not done for over a week. Mom also made the drive home with Deb tonight to clean up and try to rest. I have stayed back to have sometime with Dad and my thoughts. I was with Dad from 9:00-10:00. The time spent with Dad's caretakers tonight has been good for me. Before I crawl into my cave for a couple of hours here is what I can tell you.

During my 9:00 visit I noticed that one of Dad's tubes looked different and was hooked up to a bag of "oatmeal." Evidently this afternoon they started feeding him though a tube directly into his stomach. This is not a new tube just a previous one used differently--before it was being used to suction fluid out of his stomach and now it is putting nutriment into his body. I see this as a good sign. Not only have they started feeding him with real stuff, but they have also increased the amount that he is getting...imagine that Dad is going back for seconds.

This was my first time to spend a little alone time with Dad. I as sat with him I reminded him for the healing power of God that I felt 7 years ago. I reminded dad of the day that I told him that I was never going back to dialysis even though the doctors felt that I would need to be hooked up the machine again in a couple of day. . . my levels were too high. I never was hooked up to the machine again. Dad, your levels are too high to fix the other parts of your body and they need to come down.

I return the corner/cave to prepare for tomorrow. . . trying to manage the soccer team from Nashville.

100% Update: Mom Style

5:00pm: Chris and I went up to the 10th Floor. This was the first time that it was simply two brothers and their Dad. I don't know if he was ready, but Dr. Big Voice was in for a healthy cross-examination. You see, Chris asks every question, about every test, and every medication, and every medical finding, and every everything. My viewpoint is a little higher up...some would call it the 30,000 foot viewpoint. Mom says that she needs both viewpoints.

Here's what we know:

  1. Chest x-ray shows lots of gunk/yuck in the left lung. No sweats, no elevated temperatures = no infection. Right lung looks and sounds remarkably good.
  2. Brain stem functioning is remarkably good = Dad's not paralyzed.
  3. The #1 concern is getting ICP less than 10. If ICP is not less than 10, Trauma Team cannot do the exam. When Trauma Team cannot do the exam, we remain in the dark. (Note: We've told you that the magic ICP is 20, but that is really the "unsafe" number. To do the exam, we need "less than 10" or let's shoot for the moon with a "5").
  4. We learned on previous visits with the Trauma Team that Day 4-5 of head trauma demonstrates the most swelling. We are now entering into Day 4.
BTW, I guess Nurse Shaved Head somehow read my previous post, because he smiled at Mom this afternoon. She even said, "I guess he might have some pink wire in him."

A Open Letter to Area Pastors

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, it is okay to come by the hospital, visit Our Little Corner, and pray with Mom. She needs you, we need you, Dad needs you. God's arms are long enough to reach from the 1st Floor to the 10th Floor. Email me if you want my cell phone number.

100% Update: Two Rounds

Round 1 - 9:00am: This morning, after defusing a little Red Tape incident involving Security Guy Barney Fife, we got an update on Dad's condition:

  1. ICP levels fluctuated between 15-21 throughout the early morning.
  2. Bronchoscopy procedure went well, cleaning Dad's nostrils and air passages.
  3. Chris and Mom saw a series of CT Scans, which demonstrated that the cranium bleeding has stopped (i.e., no increased bleeding or pressure on the brain). The new CT Scan from 3:00am showed ridges of the brain surface (i.e., ridges = good)
  4. Even though Dr. Trauma was unable to repair chest cavity during surgery yesterday, Dr. Trauma(2.0) said that the ventilation machine will allow the rib cage to heal as necessary without immediate need for new surgery.
  5. Dr. Trauma(2.0) was "pleased" with progress of Dad, but reiterated that Dad had a "long way to go."

Round 2 - 1:00pm: Nurse Shaved Head Guy and Nurse Fisherman played all day with Dad.

[Editorial Note: Some people have blue wires...Some people have pink wires. We like all Trauma Nurses, but we particularly like Trauma Nurses with pink wires. It does not change the level of care, because those with blue wires are often task-oriented and want the same success (perhaps more so), but those with pink wires simply have a way of making us feel better.]

Shaved Head Guy and Fisherman are very talented and we fully trust they are focused on getting Dad better! We wish they could just cross wires, though. Thanks. Here's an update:

  1. Dad remained stable all day.
  2. Dad's face is clean, his nose looks good, his skin remains warm.
  3. Trauma Team is going to try a neurological exam later this afternoon. The Nurse will turn off the fast-acting sedation medicine (the Nurses jokingly call it Milk of Amnesia because it is a white liquid), they will perform various tests: (a) "WAKE UP RAY"; (b) "Can you hear me Ray?"; (c) "Move your fingers Ray!"; (d) "Move your hand Ray!" (e) "Move your arm Ray!"

In case you want to say an afternoon prayer, here's what Dad needs:

  1. Reduced swelling in the brain with stable ICP levels under 20.
  2. 100% free from infection.
  3. Normal neurological responses.
  4. Continued development of lungs and clearing out of blood, mucus, clots and other yuck.
  5. NEW REQUEST: Keep Dad's memory in place.

Thanks for your prayers.

Our Little Corner (by Deb)

If anyone has ever had anyone in the trauma unit of a hospital you can appreciate the ups and downs each minute (literally) brings. The chaos is controlled but inserted into every (it seems) function. What it has meant to me is to appreciate the little things in everyday life…like being able to breathe on my own, see the leaves blow in the fall sun or to simply squeeze a loved ones hand in silence.

We have set up “camp” in a little corner, next to the door leading into the chapel here at Vanderbilt University Hospital (the site seemed appropriate). It has become the epicenter of emotions where we have cried, prayed and celebrated the little wins in Ray’s journey. The “traffic” through the area near our little corner is constant. The feel is electric with emotions with a common thread of pain and concern running through families waiting to hear about loved ones and their delicate dance with life. It has made me realize that everyday, every hour, someone is in need of God’s blessings. As we sit in here in our corner, the prayers and scripture read remind us that God is good and of what a blessing Ray is, how he is instrumental in serving the Lord and the role he plays in blanketing others in His word.

Our family wants everyone to know that from the hugs to the faith shared to the food, the outpouring of love is much appreciated. Thank you…. Deb


Red Tape

Bureaucratic Red Tape in Government = Tolerable...

Bureaucratic Red Tape in Trauma Unit = NOT GOOD!

100% Recovery: The Cliff Notes Version

Welcome to http://www.growingandgrowing.com/.

If you are a regular here, we both know why you are here. Thanks...

If you a family member or friend that just found out about what happened, drop us an email here or leave us a comment below. If you want, please email your phone number to me so Mom can give you a call during a down time.

If you are a friend of a friend, thanks for stopping by to see why the DeVries are different. Our hope is that your life is changed by our changing life.

If you simply stumbled across this page, or perhaps you got here by accident, then snoop around and learn a little bit about faith in Christ Jesus, a little bit of humor (probably just the effects of major sleep deprivation), and one Godly Man named Dad. Here's what happened:

9/12/08, 5:11 pm, Jackson Dwight Cooper DeVries born (8lbs,1oz, 20.5in)

9/12/08, 11:00pm-ish, Jackson taken from Hospital1 to Hospital2-NICU

9/12/08 to 9/19/08, NICU-blur, click here and here for what happened.

9/19/08, Dinner at Puckie and Pappy Razor's house...Everyone in Nashville hoards gas!

9/20/08, 7:30am-ish, Dad (on his way to find some gas) is involved in sole-car accident. Best we can tell is that car lost control, ran off the side of the road, and slammed sideways into a telephone pole. Here's the first post.

9/20/08, 5:30pm-ish, my brother Chris and his lovely bride Deb arrive from "waaaaay north...Minnesohta...yah..."

9/20/08, Trauma Team Prognosis (50-50%) v. Our Prognosis (100%)

9/21/08 to 9/22/08, Medical updates, videos, stories, notes of encouragement, no sleep, too much uneaten food, lots of calls, little productive work, some tears, lots of questions, many more supporters, . . .

Big Sigh, Little Tear

This is why I am posting to this site as regular as possible:

"You don't know me, but your Mom and Dad are both special people to me. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the updates you are doing. I first learned of the accident from [the "Don't Call me the Other Pat"]'s post and have been looking for information several times a day. Please tell your Mom that [Ms. Vlassic Pickles] sends her love and is praying for Ray's recovery. I am keeping all of you in my prayers because this is difficult on the whole family. Thank you."

No, thank you...

100% Update: Bronchoscopy

It's 6:00am and it was the first night that we did not get a call to our humble condominium on the Second Floor in the middle of night. My neighbor rattled the neighborhood with some booming snoors. (Maybe he's just exhausted... I say a prayer for his family...)

We talked to Nurse Newbie before her shift change. ICP levels were maintained around the magic number (20) with prayers and medication. Since Dad was able to rest through the night, we now open a new chapter called "Facial Fractures." We had these questions in the back of our minds, but they were not a concern because of the heart, head, and lung concerns. This morning, Dad's oxygen saturation levels need a little prayer. Not because his lungs are not working, but because of the facial trauma to the bronchial and sinus areas. Newbie told us that they are about to perform a bronchoscopy. (Is that spelled right? Who knew that you had to be a spelling bee champion to understand each medical update?) The procedure is intended to try to open his bronchial passages to help breath and increase oxygen saturation. Currently, there is a lot of swelling, fractured bones and "stuff" in there affecting Dad's levels.

So, the Good News is the Gospel. The good news is Dad got some rest last night. The good news is that we did not receive another call in the middle of the night. The good news is that the Trauma Team is starting to look at other areas in Dad's recovery.

UPDATE:
What would life be like without Google, Wikipedia, or WebMD? According to our internet friends, the bronchoscopy is a procedure that allows the doctor to look at your airway through a thin viewing instrument called a bronchoscope. During a bronchoscopy, your doctor will examine your throat, larynx, trachea, and lower airways.

Bronchoscopy may be done to diagnose problems with the airway or to treat problems such as an object or growth in the airway. See a picture of bronchoscopy.

A rigid bronchoscope is usually done with general anesthesia and uses a straight, hollow metal tube. It is used: (1) When there is bleeding in the airway that could block the flexible scope's view; (2) To remove large tissue samples for biopsy; (3) To clear the airway of objects (such as a piece of food) that cannot be removed using a flexible bronchoscope.Special procedures, such as widening (dilating) the airway or destroying a growth using a laser, are usually done with a rigid bronchoscope.

Thanks http://www.webmd.com/ for the information.

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